A girlfriend who knows my husband and me intimately suggested that I should read the article “Honey, Let’s Get a Little Divorced” from the New York Times.

I wasn’t quite sure what to expect. Why did she tell me to read it? I immediately identified with the husband and wife banter, which made me smile, but I wasn’t sure where the article was going.

By the time I finished the article, I understood why she recommended it. The overarching message was that when we become mothers, wives, and homemakers, we so often lose sight of “our needs” and our goals. We forget what we “wanted to be when we grew up.” Although I’ve been happily married for 25 years, not a week goes by that the struggle is not at the forefront of my mind. I often think about the next generation of women, and the messages I want to pass on to them.

“Hold on to your sense of self,” I want to say to them. “Be giving, flexible, and communicative in your relationship, but don’t forget your own needs and goals.”

“If a mom is not satisfied with who she is,” I would continue. “No one in the family wins.”

For the article in the NY Times, read on…